The alt.sex.bondage FAQ List

The alt.sex.bondage FAQ List

This page contains sexual discussion. If you do not want to read sexually explicit material, please obtain software which allows you to block it out on your system. This FAQ Has Evolved! The soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm FAQ list is the new incarnation of this FAQ. Go there now if FAQs are what you want. Yep, it’s true; at the (ahem) gentle prodding of peh and Arrow Blue, I have finally gotten off my butt and translated the a.s.b FAQ into the s.s.b-b FAQ, by dint of some very-easy-why-didn’t-I-do-this-months-ago batch files and sed scripts. Enjoy, all, and my thanks for your patience. Thanks for reading! Hope you learned something! Remember, your sexuality is wonderful; treasure it and nourish...
Announcement of Plagiarism, and Quitclaim on Unlawful Copyright of Carol Queen’s article “Playing on the Edge: A look at consensually-nonconsensual SM”

Announcement of Plagiarism, and Quitclaim on Unlawful Copyright of Carol Queen’s article “Playing on the Edge: A look at consensually-nonconsensual SM”

I have an apology to make, on several levels, for a posting I made once in 1994 and again in April of 1999, and a Web page I published briefly back in late April of 1999. I also am declaring a formal quitclaim on a copyright I illegally claimed on another author’s work. The topic of consensual nonconsensuality comes up periodically on this newsgroup. Back in issue number 5 of the magazine _Taste of Latex_, Carol Queen wrote an excellent article on the topic, titled “Playing on the Edge: A look at consensually-nonconsensual SM.” I have committed multiple plagiarism and appropriation of copyright with respect to this article, and it is past time to make amends. Back in 1994, when consensual nonconsensuality was being discussed on (then) alt.sex.bondage, I typed in the entire article from _Taste of Latex_. I omitted Carol Queen’s byline altogether, and included the following postlogue: “This article appeared in issue number 6 (now sold out) of the magazine _Taste of Latex_, edited by Lily Braindrop, subscriptions $20 for four issues from P. O. Box 460122, San Francisco, CA 94146. Typed in without permission by Johnson Grey (johnson_grey@unrealities.com). I defend this under the “fair use” provision of the copyright laws.” This was a crime on my part. I deliberately reproduced another author’s work (moreover, an author whose work I esteem very highly indeed), without crediting her, and claiming falsely that my crime was sanctioned by “fair use” — which it was not, at all. Reproducing an entire text is by no stretch of the imagination “fair use”, especially given that I had not credited the author...
Cheap and Creative Toys

Cheap and Creative Toys

This posting came from alt.sex.bondage a couple of years ago (circa 1995). I thought it was worth keeping. Enjoy! (Not all of these are cheap, mind you 🙂 Creative Toy Sources! Compiled by Tanith Tyrr – share freely, please credit the author Music stores: Metal banjo picks (excellent and inexpensive “claws”), tambourine brushes, drumsticks, sound effect toys Beauty supply: Rubber bands, clips and clamps, hairbrushes Theatrical/magic:Blacklights and strobe lights, mindfuck props, costuming, fake blood, stage knives, rope tricks, itching powder Kitchen/home: Bathroom accessories (loofah sponges, mitts), spatulas, cutting board paddles, cheese graters, pickle pinchers, wooden spoons, rice paddles, plastic windowblind closing rods (good canes) Pet stores: Collars, leashes, bells, dog food bowls, cages, remote electrical shock collars. Veterinary supply sells horse and dog bite gags, forceps, sterile needles, some restraints Fishing stores: (Warning: fishhooks are not safe for piercing play!) – Fiberglass rods, weights, pliers and clamps, fish scaler (abrasion toy), bells with clips Farm supply: Castrating bands (Elastrator), cattle prods, flexible plastic fencing material, mild electrical “pest” fences Tack shops: Riding crops, harnesses and bridles, horse hobbles Arts/Crafts: Tap Plastics cuts custom paddle/cane shapes and stocks fiberglass rods. Craft stores sell leather and specialty rope. Tandy Leather sells horsehair, feathers, leather laces Marine supply: Rope, winches, quick-release snaps, pulleys Climbing supply: Heavy duty ropes, carabiners, suspension harnesses Shoe Repair: Scrap leather, heavy rubber soles, laces, polish Auto Parts: “Parts retriever” gripping toy, funnels, windshield wiper blades, vinyl cleaner Fabric stores: Clover clamps, spiked measuring and cutting wheels Pharmacies: Menthol rubs, Ace bandages, douches and enemas, aspirin (increases bruising), snakebite kits, Betadine, First Aid and safety gear, cotton swabs,...
Tips on Self-Bondage

Tips on Self-Bondage

This sizable piece is by Jonathan Peters. Again, this is not my advice; follow these instructions at your own risk. It is likely that the majority of people have no desire ever to be physically restrained. Likely, but unproven – there appears to have been very little esearch on the topic. This is the kind of field where people hide the truth from themselves let alone from others. My guess is that plenty of utterly ormal en would dearly love to be tied to a bed by the sex symbol of their dreams. Women I’m not so sure about (feedback welcomed). Going beyond this, there are certainly plenty of people who explicitly crave some kind of enforced immobility. This is sometimes out of curiosity but more usually for erotic stimulation. Most modern guides to love making include a section on bondage, highlighting the intensity it can give to sexual relationships while emphasising the need for full consensuality and avoidance of physical harm (ie Comfort, 1990). Yes, great – it’s legitimate to want to be tied, and you must feel free to discuss this with your partner without shame. (Embarrassment perhaps, but that is one of life’s little hurdles…) If you have a partner who indulges your fantasies as often as you want, count yourself very lucky. There are plenty of people who lack a sexual partner, or whose partner won’t play along, or says “Yes of course Dear, sometime- but not tonight”. This document is written as a practical guide to those who want to be tied up and can’t get someone to help. At a deeper level, I...
S&M Questions & Answers

S&M Questions & Answers

I started writing the FAQ simply because I wanted to answer some common questions. Plenty of other people on the net also like answering questions, and some of them have sent me good Q’s and A’s. Here’s a partial compilation of some answers by Hans Meijer and his fellows in a Dutch SM group. All text beyond this point written by Hans and his group. 1. What is Japanese bondage? Japanese bondage is a very old form of bondage developed in (obvious isn’t it) Japan, but also in other oriental countries like China. The basic idea, developed in medieval Japanese and Chinese torture practise, is that time will eventually do the job (basically like the trick with the dripping water). The torture developed into an S&M-technique that incorporates the following aspects: meditation erotic power-massage through the ropes and knots esthetism helplessness and exposure The difference between Japanese and other bondage techniques mainly comes from the erotic massage part. Like acupuncture or acumassage the ropes and knots press on nerve centers in muscles and the total of the bondage works as a constant masseuse. The more you move and struggle, the more effective the massage works. If you’re very experienced, you will make your bondage in such a way, that every different move exposes your bottom to a different massage. The combination of helplessness and the massage-effect triggers meditation and you will find that experienced bottoms, exposed to Japanese bondage, will soon be able to stay even in the most complex positions for hours and hours. The problem with my girlfriend is not getting her into a Japanese bondage, but...
Johnson G Personal Page

Johnson G Personal Page

This page contains sexual discussion. If you do not want to read sexually explicit material, please obtain software which allows you to block it out on your system. Also, please proceed to a site without such material. Welcome to my sexuality page! If you’re looking for a WWW porn site, keep on surfin’. I don’t particularly want to spend lots of money subsidizing lurkers who’re downloading gigabytes of porn from my pages. Of course, most people aren’t into the sorts of things I find exciting…. However, A Must See Site: But if it’s sexy bondage pictures you want, go immediately and directly to http://www.houseofgord.com If you like bondage, you will not regret it!!!!! What’s on this page: The alt.sex.bondage FAQ list Pictures! Sexy Links The Kinkiest Frequently Asked Questions List On The Net I got online during my first year at college. I encountered a newsgroup called alt.sex.bondage . It was right up an alley I was only partially aware was mine. I learned a great deal from that group. After a few years, I knew enough to start answering other peoples’ questions on alt.sex.bondage. And by the summer of 1991, I’d been doing it a lot. So, little knowing what I was getting into, I put together a post with a few simple Q&A’s. And thus was born The alt.sex.bondage FAQ list! Possibly the most widely read kinky sex manual in cyberspace history. Over the ensuing three years it grew to its current length of about thirty pages. I’ve gotten hundreds of pieces of email from all over the world. Most thank me for writing it. Some testify...
What’s New

What’s New

1999 21 April: Hey hey, two updates in one year?! Just you wait, there’s more comin’… Added the Czech translation (thanks Thomas!), and added the Taste of Latex con-noncon article, which I subsequently removed after getting righteously copyright flamed. 3 April: Well, so much for “more time to work on the FAQ”! *Lotta* personal changes in my life since last I updated this page… but at any rate, here I am again. Added links to, and uploaded, the archived translations of the FAQ. Added a link to the group’s charter. Fixed the broken seXrated image. 1998 30 June: My my my. What a difference a year makes. I now have more time to work on the FAQ, which is a mixed blessing unless all you care about is the FAQ, which I suppose is true for you 🙂 Added two answers: “Is BDSM sexual?” and “Where can I post ads?” (Thanks Spectrum!) Updated the resource list somewhat, and cleaned up some broken links. 1997 31 July: Well, the reposting hasn’t started happening yet, but at least I’ve finally converted the FAQ to its new incarnation as the resident s.s.b-b FAQ list. R.I.P, a.s.b F.A.Q. 1 May: Wow, a revision in 1997! Updated the resource list slightly, fixed up some links, started preparing to start ACTUALLY REPOSTING THE FAQ! What a concept…. 1996 18 November: Whew, what a year it’s been. Life certainly isn’t boring…. Finally I’m making the time to go through my old email file and handle all the accumulated updates of the past year. Thanks, everyone, for your support! Added information about cutting safety and other bloodsports....
Charter

Charter

CHARTER: soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm To provide a safe and open forum, where people of any gender or sexual orientation can engage in discussion, support, socialisation and general interchange concerning the various topics referred to collectively as “BDSM” (Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism). There are numerous related topics which are also appropriate to this group. “BDSM” is intended here to be read in its broadest sense. The aim of this document is not to exhaustively define what SSB is about, but rather to define what it is not about, outline what it is about, and leave the detail to be shaped by the people who actually post to it. The following types of posts are particularly welcomed in this group: Discussions of BDSM and its interplay with relationships, self-image etc. Discussions of techniques used in BDSM, ideas and experiences. Community action, personal liberty and similar political/ campaigning issues related to the BDSM lifestyles. Accounts of experiences. BDSM stories, erotica, poetry and other creative writings. Socialisation. Humour. Announcements of events. Other types of post are not excluded, except as noted below. The following types of posts are unacceptable in this group: Binary files of any kind. Exception: Small binary .sig blocks or attachments of maximum 20 lines. For example .sigs generated by public key encryption systems such as PGP and similar. (For binaries try alt.binaries.pictures.erotica.bondage). Personal advertisements. (try alt.personals.bondage) Commercial Advertisements (posts offering something for sale, directly or indirectly). (Try alt.sex.erotica.marketplace, alt.sex.wanted, alt.sex.telephone, alt.bbs.ads, or alt.sex.magazines). Exception 1: On-topic “commercial” activities of non-profit, charitable or community action/campaigning organisations are acceptable. Exception 2: Commercial .sig line adverts are acceptable if...
Adults-Only Disclaimer

Adults-Only Disclaimer

It may be illegal, and it is certainly unwise, to publish “obscene, filthy, or indecent” Internet material without precautions to ensure minors or unwilling viewers can avoid it. I use the label above throughout all my pages, as just such a precaution. If you are not a legal adult, or if you do not wish to view material which you may find sexually explicit or offensive: Do not read any page with the SEXRATED symbol after the title, and do not select any link followed by the SEXRATED symbol. Set your ratings software (such as SurfWatch) to lock out the address “http://www.unrealities.com/” where all my SEXRATED material is kept. I have already instructed SurfWatch to add that address to their list of blocked sites. The only way to preserve freedom of speech is for everyone to take responsibility for their own reading. With this labeling, I allow you to do just that. Verbum sap. I claim that this labeling meets the conditions of section 502.E.5.A of the recently passed Communications Decency Act, as a good faith effort to prevent minors from viewing this information. If you aren’t interested in erotic discussion, then please go...